As far as lesbian dating apps go, I will quite honest with you, there are not a ton. However, this is not discouraging at all! The reason why is because the possibility of finding a successful relationship from an app doesn’t increase with the amount of apps available. Instead, your chances increase with the amount of people using the particular app you are on.
This is why it doesn’t really matter that there aren’t a ton or even a solid dozen of specifically lesbian dating apps. Now, although I will mention a few lesbian dating apps that seem to have a little more publicity than other lesbian dating apps, it still doesn’t mean that you should just stick to those. Regardless, let me start by giving you the apps and/or websites that are specific to lesbians.
Lesbian Dating Apps (that cater only to lgbtq+)
HER
I actually tried this one before, briefly. I had a few conversations and it seemed fairly decent! The app even claims to have over 10 million registered users. I just can’t give a full review on this because I used it for maybe a couple days at most. However, my girlfriend met her first girlfriend on this particular app, so it has what seems to be a good amount of active users and offers some real hope for the girls!
Pink Cupid
This is a dating site that claims to have over 1 million members worldwide. Therefore, it does not seem like the biggest dating pool ever compared to the 10 million that HER claims to have. However, this does not mean it couldn’t be great. In fact, with an online site that requires you to pay, I would think that there is a bigger chance of people taking it seriously and really wanting to participate and meet people.
Other Apps that can be Great
Bumble
I used bumble for a while and I found it perfectly fine and simple to use. You can program it to show you only girls interested in girls and the rest is pretty straight forward (no pun intended.) It’s looked at as a classier Tinder from what people have told me in the past. I don’t know if that means it has people who are more serious or what exactly, but it was a solid app in my opinion.
Tinder
So, I know I just mentioned that Bumble is like a classier tinder, but I still throw Tinder in here because I know of a lesbian couple who have been going out for three years and met on Tinder. So, it is still totally possible to meet your match on this app, whether it feels a little cringy or not.
eHarmony
I always thought of eHarmony was one of the OG dating sites. It apparently has a lesbian platform now too, so that’s cool!
Cupid.com
Another dating site that also offers the lesbian settings:)
Meetup.com
This is technically not a dating app, but it can be an awesome way to meet new people. Meetup is a site that enables you to find events and activities going on around you that align with your interests. There are groups for tons of things. You can just put whatever you are interested in in the search bar and see what comes up. You can see how many people are attending, when, and where the meet up will take place.
This is great because you can search by your interest and attend things that likeminded people or at least people who have similar interests as you, will be at. And yes, there are lesbian groups to meet up with. In fact, the last time I had taken a look on the site, I saw that there were speed dating groups that you could join that were catered to specific lesbian preferences. For example, “femme woman seeking butch women,” or “femme women seeking femme women”. This is kind of awesome. Also, you can make your own group if you want to!
My Favorite App
Hinge
I love Hinge. I’m biased of course because I found my current girlfriend on this app (who is now my fiancé) and we both thank Hinge for being great. Even before I met my girlfriend on this app, I was using this one predominantly.
This is because I really like how it made things a little easier to start conversations with people. It didn’t feel like the quick and obnoxious swiping game that I didn’t care for. It didn’t just show pictures either. It showed interests and things that I could use to actually start the beginnings of a fun or interesting conversation. Starting a conversation can honestly be tough when you know absolutely nothing about the other person or their personality.
. That’s why I really gravitated towards hinge because it took out a lot of the guessing for me and I could dive in with a somewhat thoughtful remark or question based on their profile. This really helped conversations take off and that is one of the first biggest steps to getting these dating apps to work for you from what I can tell.
So, definitely give Hinge a try if you haven’t already. Put some effort into your profile and ask some good questions. Or, make some nice comments to spark some nice convo.
Concluding thoughts
Dating apps can be daunting to use, but they can also be fun and exciting to use too. Afterall, there is so much potential that could come out of using them.
One tip I have for those really looking to get into a meaningful relationship is to not spend too much time on the dating app itself. Once you’ve determined that you are interested in someone and it seems very mutual, plan a time with them to meet up somewhere so you can have a chat in person and really see how you feel in their actual presence. It may get you out of your comfort zone, but it will help you save time in the end and streamline a great relationship that is just waiting to bloom.